They have give their best

Everybody like to be appreciated. But why is it so difficult to show little appreciation to those  who had put in their best and say "well Done" to them. Dear children. Keep up your good work

Whenever children complained something happened, we adults tend to answer them, "there, I told you so..". then the kids cannot say much and keep quite, You think you win this time, next time, he will not tell you anything that happened to him because he expected an answer "I told you so".


Journey  with them. Life is rewarding. What was thought right yesterday may not be right today. Ride with time. Change our mindset before we can change others.

Just came back from  Lantern Festival  celebrated with Teachers and staff of my son's school. The students made lantern by using recycling stuff, very creative though. Dare to try new things, being care free, idea flows. Do not keep them in the box,so that they can think out of the box.

Happiness

At the end of the day, what most people really want in life is to be happy.

Many people believe that happiness comes from obtaining certain objects. They say things like,

"I’ll be so happy when I get my new iphone!"

However, the happiness associated with obtaining these objects is usually short term only . Have you ever received something you really wanted only to have it end up sitting on a shelf gathering dust a few weeks later? I know I have!

So, if lasting happiness can’t be found by obtaining ‘things’, how can we increase the levels of happiness in our lives?

I believe that the best way to obtain lasting happiness is to bring happiness into the lives of others. The most amazing thing about happiness is that the more you give away to others, the more you receive for yourself.

So, whenever you’re feeling a little low and need a dose of happiness, one of the best things you can do is to focus on making someone else happy. Remember… even a smile can lift up someone!

Living for a cause

Suicide cases of the young generation are on the rise these day, I kept asking myself why. Perhaps their life is meaningless to them. Many a time when we are about to give up on doing something, what keeps us going? A sense of responsibilities. If they feel they don't have to be responsible towards anybody including their families and friends or the society, they can take their life just as they wish.

As  parent, I always instill the idea to my children that life do not belong to them, I have fought hard to bring them up, I have gone through terrible child birth, sleepless night when they are sick. As a mother, I am not given any day off, no public holiday, no rest day and so on. So, they have responsibilities to take care of themselves inclusive of their life. Be thankful to your mother on your birthday. Children, you owe it to me.

Be Yourself

Chris shared with me that he has become an icon among his classmate that he is  the person who will not give up easily. He persist if he know that is his dream. Simply work hard to achieve it. Whenever some friends wish to give up on their pursuit., they will think of him and persist. Cheers....

. 14 years old son 's class was the only class  chosen to participate in a new school program. They were asked to go school once a week earlier  for one to one tutoring by another fellow classmate. The aim is to improve their grade as he is placed in one out of 3 elite class. When the students asked the teacher why they were chosen, the answer given was they did not get all A in their last term examination. Worst still, if their grade deteriote after this programe, they will be punish. He was furios when he got home, Elder son who had just finished his upper secondary in the same school and attending college while waiting for his SPM results cool him down and explained to him the benefits. He had in fact volunteer to do the same and submitted his name and passed some written test. He had however suggested that teacher is encourage to tell the benefits and punishment should not be given but certificate of appreciation or attendance be given to those who have improve their grade. Isn't it a better way to encourage our teens to do well?

Starting college life

Chris is quite good in academic but not so in games or sports. He wants to strike some balance and working on it by joining somekind of leadership camp. He had been label "book worm" throughout his secondary life.

Keep it up Chris, Hope to hear good news from you.

You think your 14 years old can handle it

After 1 week into the new school term, my son came home very furiously and tears in eye ..... Sign that he needs help.

"Calm down boy, just explain what happen." I said to him." Mom, My teacher wants to to rewrite my name on the exercise book cover in Capital letter  without using a correction tape or eraser and no noticeable changes be made. I just don't know how mum..". "Any suggestion boy?" I want to use another new exercise book cover and replace it. but don't have idea how to  staple it exactly?" He answered.

"Son, can I  send it to the stationery shop to fix it tomorrow as I have to attend a meeting and need to have my dinner. I know it can be done easily."

Tears started to roll down. This small issue to an adult is too big for him to handle. He just can't have his dinner. He is facing a problem.

I decided to rush to the shop and got it done for him. He is relieved after he saw the exercise book and is happy to do washing up of the dishes and I rush to attend my meeting.

I explained to him the next day why he has to stay calm in life when something happen. I don't think he will listen to me if I have not solved his problem.

Growing with you teen needs your time.